A while ago, I was complaining to someone at Microsoft about what they should do in VFP 10 - in fact, the same point is right on the Wiki list as well:
Office XP/2003 style menu effects
Well, as is usually the case with FoxPro developers, someone - in this case, Alex Grigorjev - has gone and done it themselves. The price is a bit high ($165 US) but not overwhelmingly so.
Check out the demo - it's very good and doesn't rely on third party ActiveX controls (or at least it doesn't seem to).
What's really cool is that you can switch the visual effect simply by changing a property from Office XP, Office 2000, Office 2003, Native XP, Office 2003 on WinXP or even Visual Studio 2005.
Very cool - great job!
Command Bars Library